Consequences – nobody likes them; however, they apply to everyone, children and adults alike. 

Whether ther are imposed on you or are natural from doing something silly or foolish; they really are important because they help us to learn.

Consequences in your family may look different from other families, which is absolutely fine. You know your child/ren better than anyone and you know what works with them.

Two of our children were girls who were totally different. One enjoyed being on her own and didn’t need a lot of time with others. The other one needed social contact often. When we used time out with our girls, it was done differently. For it to work as the consequence it was meant to be, the one who enjoyed being on her own took her time out where we could all see her. The other was sent to her room for any time out consequence. Both girls found their particular time out uncomfortable, but worthwhile in the long run.

It is well worth your time to consider what works for your children and what doesn’t when applying a consequence for a behaviour. It is good to remember; though, one consequence does not fit all. The consequence should match the behaviour. So, time out would not be used for all behaviour.

I hope this helps.

Tanya Lindsay