The words we use with children matter more than we often realise. Research consistently shows that positive, specific encouragement helps children develop confidence, resilience, motivation, and a healthy sense of self-worth. While every child needs guidance and correction at times, they also need to hear that their effort, kindness, persistence, and growth are noticed and valued.

One of the most effective forms of praise is to focus on the process rather than the outcome. Instead of saying, “You’re so clever,” consider saying, “I love how you kept trying even when it was difficult,” or “You showed real kindness by helping your friend.” This type of encouragement teaches children that perseverance, character, and learning are worth celebrating. It also supports the development of a growth mindset, helping children believe that abilities can improve through effort and practice.

At Glasshouse Christian College, our teachers are intentionally looking for opportunities each day to encourage students in meaningful ways. Whether it is a smile, a quiet word of affirmation, or recognising an act of integrity, we know that positive interactions help create classrooms where children feel safe, known,
and ready to learn.

As parents and educators, we have the privilege of working together to shape the next generation. When children regularly hear specific, sincere, and timely encouragement at both home and school, they are more likely to develop resilience, stronger relationships, and the confidence to embrace new challenges.

As Proverbs 17:22 reminds us, “A cheerful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones.”

May our words be a source of life, encouragement, and hope for every child in our care.

Suggested reading: Dweck, C. S. (2006). Mindset: The New Psychology of Success; Gunderson, E. A., et al. (2013). “Parent praise to 1- to 3-year-olds predicts children’s motivational frameworks 5 years later,” Child Development.

Jamie Simmonds, Acting Assistant Head of Primary