Technology is an important part of our children’s world. Laptops, iPads and phones provide incredible opportunities to learn, create and communicate. However, while digital skills are essential, research suggests that the qualities which help children truly flourish are often the “soft skills” that cannot be developed through a screen alone.
Dr Brené Brown reminds us that children thrive when they experience genuine connection, belonging and encouragement. Likewise, educator Dr Parker J. Palmer emphasises that meaningful learning grows through authentic relationships and a sense of community. These ideas reinforce the importance of investing time in conversations, play and shared experiences.
Similarly, psychologist Dr Carol Dweck has shown that praising effort, strategies and persistence fosters a growth mindset. Saying, “I noticed how hard you worked on that,” is often more powerful than, “You’re so clever,” because it encourages resilience and a willingness to embrace challenges.
As Christians, we see these principles reflected in the life and teachings of Jesus. He consistently encouraged, affirmed and invested in people, calling them to grow while
showing grace and compassion. Jesus taught, “Love one another as I have loved you” (John 3:34), reminding us that relationships are at the heart of transformation. Children who feel loved, valued and known are more likely to develop confidence, empathy and courage.
At home, parents can nurture these qualities by creating opportunities for conversation, collaboration, service and outdoor play while setting healthy boundaries around recreational screen time. Technology should complement, not replace, the development of empathy, communication and character.
At Glasshouse Christian College, our teachers intentionally look for opportunities each day to recognise perseverance, kindness and improvement through specific encouragement. Together, families and schools can help children develop both digital competence and the resilience, compassion and confidence they need to flourish.
Suggested Reading: Brené Brown, Daring Greatly (2012)
Jamie Simmonds, Acting Assistant Head of Primary
