When we are in a conflict situation or a high stress time of life, or even when things don’t go the way we want them to we tend to respond in certain ways.
Sometimes we lash out physically or emotionally. Sometimes we hide or run away. Other times we bottle it up or simply ignore everything.
There are circumstances where these reactions are appropriate (for instance, if someone is attacking you it’s healthy to defend yourself to get away).
But often, when we learn that a certain response worked once we learn to use that same response for everything… all the time. Whenever we aren’t sure how to respond, we just pull out old faithful!
Clearly this go to reaction might not be the best response for every circumstance.
Instead, when we find ourselves in a high stress or complicated situation we need to follow these simple steps:
Stop , Think , Pray , Ask , Do
Stop! Take a breather and realize where you are and who you are with.
Think! What is actually going on right now? Is my go to reaction really the right reaction?
Pray! God help me in this situation! I need your protection, wisdom and advice.
Ask! Ask the Lord to help you respond in the best way. The most constructive and god honoring way.
Do! Finally you have the opportunity to react. But by following these steps you have given yourself a great head start in reacting positively, instead of destructively.
My child, never forget the things I have taught you.
Store my commands in your heart.
If you do this, you will live many years,
and your life will be satisfying.
Never let loyalty and kindness leave you!
Tie them around your neck as a reminder.
Write them deep within your heart.
Then you will find favor with both God and people,
and you will earn a good reputation.
Trust in the Lord with all your heart;
do not depend on your own understanding.
Seek his will in all you do,
and he will show you which path to take
Mick Spann, Youth Pastor